Build Confidence and Destroy Fear

Yes fear is real. And we must recognize it exists before we can conquer it. Most fear today is psychological. Worry, tension, embarrassment, panic all stem from mismanaged, negative imagination. But simply knowing the breeding ground of fear doesn’t cure fear. If a physician discovers you have an infection in some part of your body, he doesn’t stop there. He proceeds with treatment to cure the infection.

The old “it’s only in your mind treatment” presumes fear doesn’t really exist. But it does.Fear is real. Fear is success enemy number 1. Fear stops people from capitalizing on opportunity; fear wears down physical vitality; fear actually makes people sick, causes organic difficulties, shortens life; fear closes your mouth when you want to speak.

Fear–uncertainty, lack of confidence–explains why we still have economic recessions. Fear explains why millions of people accomplish little and enjoy little.

All confidence is acquired, developed. No one is born with confidence. Those people you know who radiate confidence, who have conquered worry, who are at ease everywhere and all the time, acquired their confidence, every bit of it.

You can too.

Action cures fear. Indecision, postponement, on the other hand fertilize fear. Write it down gang, “ACTION CURES FEAR”! If you don’t start moving on what you are needed to do to succeed, the longer you wait to take action the more fear will build. The more fear builds the harder it is to start and the less confidence you will have. The good news is you can start at anytime, procrastination is the death of any success you may want to accomplish.

When we face tough problems, we stay blinded in the mud until we take action.Hope is a start. But hope needs action to win victories. Put the action principle to work. Next time you experience big fear or little fear, steady yourself. Then search for an answer to this question: What kind of action can I take to conquer my fear? Isolate your fear, then take action.

Here is a list of eight common fears people have and the action you need to take to change that fear into having confidence;

1) Embarrassment because of personal appearance. Action; Improve it, go to barbershop or beauty salon. Shine your shoes. Get clothes cleaned and pressed. In general, practice better grooming. It doesn’t always take new clothes.

2) Fear of losing an important customer. Action; Work doubly hard to give better service. Correct anything that may have caused customers to lose confidence in you.

3) Fear of failing an examination. Action; Convert worry time into study time.

4) Fear of things totally beyond your control. Action; Switch your attention to something totally different.

5) Fear of being physically hurt by something you can’t control such as a tornado, or an airplane out of control. Action; Turn your attention to helping to relieve the fear of others. Pray.

6) Fear of what other people may think or say. Action; Make sure that what you plan to do is right. Then do it. No one ever does anything worthwhile for which he is not criticized.

7) Fear of making an investment or purchasing a new home. Action; Analyze all factors. Then be decisive. Make a decision and stick to it.

8) Fear of people. Action; Put them in proper perspective. Remember, the other person is just another human being pretty much like yourself.

Use this two-step procedure to cure fear and win confidence:

1) Isolate your fear. Pin it down. Determine exactly what you are afraid of.

2) Then take action. There is some kind for any kind of fear. And remember, hesitation only enlarges, magnifies the fear. Take action promptly.

Successful people specialize in putting positive thoughts into their memory bank. Negative thoughts produce needless wear and tear on your mental motor. They create worry, frustration, and feelings of inferiority. Destroy negative thoughts before those thoughts become mental monsters. It is clear that any negative thought, if fertilized with repeated recall, can develop into a real mind monster, breaking down confidence and paving the way to serious psychological difficulties.

Whether the problem is big or little, the cure comes when one learns to quit drawing negatives from ones memory bank and withdraws positives instead.

Confident action produces confident thinking.

1) Be a front seater. Sitting up front builds confidence and displays hunger. Create a positive environment by being a front seater and invite others to join you.

2) Practice eye contact. Failure to make eye contact says, I feel inferior beside you. I’m afraid you. Or avoiding another persons eyes may say, I feel guilty. You say nothing good about yourself when you avoid making eye contact.

3) Walk 25% faster. When you know where your going, go ahead and get there. This shows others that your confident and confidence from others gives you a good self-esteem.

4) Practice speaking up. Make it a rule to speak up at business meetings and ask questions. Others will have the same question but are afraid to ask it so model the way and be bold.

5) Smile big. We all know that the person who is always smiling can not be in a bad mood and will always have something good to say. You should be that smiling person that brightens up the room when you walk in.

Don’t let fear hold you back from achieving the highest level of success that you want to achieve. Set your goals high and run towards them because if you thought it you can achieve it!

 

God Bless

Jim

 

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About jimmartinlifeleadership

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7 responses to “Build Confidence and Destroy Fear

  • Brian

    Awesome! The extra boost of confidence I just got from reading that was great. Thanks for everything you do bro!

    Brian

  • Clint Fix

    Thanks for the reminder that Action Cures Fear. It’s not comfortable to push through fear, but I always feel better and more confident when I do.

  • Duane Fueslein

    Terrific series of mental Stepping Stones:

    -Fear is real!
    -Fear is success enemy number 1!
    -All confidence is acquired!
    -You can too!
    -Action cures fear!
    -Hope needs Action to win victories!
    -Isolate your fear, then take Action!
    -Take Action promptly!
    -Quit drawing negatives from one’s memory bank!
    -Be a Front Seater!
    -Practice Eye Contact!
    -Walk 25% Faster!
    -Speak UP!
    -Smile BIG!

  • Kaitlyn Fix

    Awesome post Jim! I love that you makes sure people understand that fear is real, but action can cure it! I know that once i push through a fear, I feel way more confident! Thanks again!

    Kaitlyn

  • Claire

    This is EXACTLY what I needed to read todag! Thank you so much for your leadership!!

  • Omar

    Great post Jim , Thanx for sharing

  • Juliet Gulledge

    Thanks Jim for taking time to pen this very important topic & to give strategies on overcoming.
    Juliet

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